I've been sucked into what the rest of my social media world had been sucked into lately:
The Johny Depp vs. Amber Heard trial.
Sure, there's far more important news to follow.
Like Roe vs. Wade soon to be revoked because the U.S wants to travel backwards in time and control women. Or the war in Ukraine that has now become a normal kind of tragic.
Or the shootings in Buffalo, and just twenty miles from me in downtown LA.
Yes, those are all far more important.... But.... something in the tragic train wreck of the Depp/Heard case sucked me right in. Could it be the real life villain that Amber Heard is? Everybody loves a good villain. And she plays the part well: She lies (under oath I might add), manipulates and gaslights (so we hear in those countless recordings), and defends herself as if she truly believes in her own innocence.
Because she absolutely does. A villain doesn't think they are the villain. Most of us perceive ourselves to be heroes and many of us would justify our actions to a fault. And Amber Heard is not the exception.
But it can't be just that.... The way this trial has sucked in millions around the world... is it simply because seeing such a toxic relationship make us feel better about our lives? Especially because two very rich & famous people are the ones experiencing it? Is what's going on here simply a gossipy "Stars, they're just like us" comic relief to our miserable lives?!?
Or perhaps... there's something more interesting here. A look into human behavior. A study of a tragic and faulty personality disorder. A window towards the notion that 'The trauma of your childhood becomes the drama of your marriage.'
Maybe it's not just about Heard being an antihero (To those of you who view her as a domestic violence survivor after seeing this trial - you must have never encountered an abusive narcissist before - lucky you!) or Depp being an alcohol and substance addict who married the wrong woman. Or maybe it's not so black and white and truth is somewhere in the middle. (except in this case it's likely NOT that) or maybe it's an escape from the last two years into an ex lovers brawl that really has nothing to do with anyone else.
Or maybe it's some twisted entertainment.
Or maybe - it's all these things.
I welcome it all.
*Reminder: As always with my blog, all the opinions/thoughts shared here are my own!
In April 2020, while experiencing her first ever global pandemic, Tamar Pelzig pledged to write something every day, even if it's only a word, so she welcomed to the world a daily blog to keep her creative writing wheels rolling.
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